Read my “Love Letter to #HurtBae” on Huffington Post!

Hey my loves!

I’m so excited to get back to contributing to Huffington Post! Please read my first post for them for 2017! You all remember #HurtBae? (*cue tears*) I was truly moved by that video. I was so moved that my pen was ready to go! Read my new post entitled, “A Charge to Keep I Have”: Love Letter to #HurtBae. Then comment on Huffington Post or head over to Facebook, twitter and/or Instagram to share your thoughts!

Remember, life is not perfect, it’s purposed for GREATNESS!!

With Love From,

Nina

A Charge to Keep I have: Love Letter to #HurtBae

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A Charge to Keep I have: Love Letter to #HurtBae

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Let’s GO

Beyonce Performs at Revel Resorts & CasinoI’ve never seen my hands shake this much. Seriously, in all of my years of anxiety riddled delirium I have never ever seen my hands shake like this. It’s not a first date sweaty palms hands shaking nervous moment. It’s a “my entire fate will be dictated by this decision” moment. As you mature in age, it’s not a prerequisite for the evolution of your years for you to mature in other ways as well. Translation: You can be an old ass big kid. You can get older and older, your hips can spread, your boobs can grow (along with other body parts too) and you could miss every opportunity for you to mature emotionally, spiritually, and mentally. Some of you are probably reading this wondering, what is the point? Why is Nina on a soap box discussing our maturity levels when most of us are grown, with kids, jobs and responsibilities? Yeah, you are right. Most of us are waking up daily forging through 9-5’s, wiping tears and snotty noses and trying to press ahead. However, have you ever checked yourself? I mean really, have you honestly checked yourself? What is your thought process when making decisions for your future? Do you still rehearse your past of torrid and emotionally harmful love affairs that took a piece of you each time and then use that faulty blueprint that you’ve created to block out possible healthy relationships? Do you relive the moments when your parents and/or family cast you and your dreams down and now you’ve bought into that story so much so that you believe that nightmare to be true and therefore you force yourself to live it daily by ignoring the core of you that is calling you to pursue who you truly are inside? DO you overly shelter your kids to the point where they have no activities and/or school and life balance because someone molested you as a child so now you have deemed the whole world bad and therefore your child is deprived of a childhood of memories, friends and limitless dreams? Or are you the opposite, did you fail at something in life and because you didn’t succeed at it you call yourself “protecting” your child from the heartache of failure by never even allowing them to have your full support in exploring this thing that they may be stellar at or, even possibly, better than you?

Bottom line: our scars are killing us and our ability to mature and grow. And in some instances our scars are oozing a toxin that is infecting those we love. IF we don’t do a self-check and mature, we will be left alone because one day those around us will come to a place that the toxicity of our actions will become so overwhelming that they will have to sever ties with us to become the best version of them. It’s time for all of us to admit, we’ve made petty and irresponsible decisions that have altered our lives. It’s time to fess up to your part in the lack of progress within our children in our homes and also in our communities. It’s time confess that we allowed life, hurt, pain and wrong turns to cause us to believe that we are not entitled, after hard work of course, to a luminous future full of love and hope and endless opportunities to change our lives and the world. Today was my self-check day. Heck, 2016 was my self-check year! However, this morning in my quiet and meditation and prayer it was brought to my attention that is was time to make some major adjustments so that who I am and what I am are not being snuffed out by what I’ve done and what I neglected to do. Why? Because, anxiety and depression will make you believe that there is no point in progress or growth because you don’t belong here anyway. As I’ve begun to truly heal over the years I’ve learned the truth. The past doesn’t matter. It’s just a point of reference for what you should steer away from. Rehearsing our past robs us of the performance of a lifetime on this stage called life. One last thought, think about this carefully. Before, a performer hits the stage to give it their all what is the last thing they do? They look in a mirror or have someone check them; they take a deep breath and say to their self, “I’m ready. Let’s go.” Do your “check”, fix what you need to (God has forgiven you) , and get out on that stage of your life and PERFORM. Let’s go.

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Remember, life is not perfect, it’s purposed, for GREATNESS!

With Love From,

Nina

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